(6) If my child is emotional, it is better to avoid it.
When a child is emotional or has the tendency to have emotional outburst may mean
that the child lacks skills in handling his/her emotions as well as expressing it
in a positive manner. Therefore, when adults avoid this, it reinforces to the child
the benefit of using it and hence not willing to improve. The child needs to learn
how to handle emotional issues, coping with negative emotions, communicating it to
others and how to respond to other’s emotional challenges, triggers and stressors.
With this empowerment, the child can behave in a positive manner which can be beneficial
to his/her development, socialization, relationship and in other areas that require
face to face interactions, sharing, compromising or expressing emotions.
(7) Talking about my child’s failure will cause more disappointment to my child.
Relating to your child in a positive constructive manner with relevant supports and
reassurances can help your child learn from his/her mistakes which are important
for his/her developments. With the focus on the issue, parents can relate to the
child in a way that can help boost the child’s confidence and emotional well-being.
(8) My child will not be affected from seeing his/her parents fighting or quarrelling
as long as we do not involve him/her and by showing our love and care to the child.
Seeing his/her parents fighting can cause insecurity and feeling unsafe since he/she
may not understand what is happening or being confused by the different behaviours.
However, the child may learn that it is alright to behave in this manner to his/her
love ones or to communicate one has to behave like this. For older children, he/she
may be upset with it hence affecting his/her life and emotional well-being, especially
if the child has to choose sides or become the middle person. Therefore, if parents
find that they are not able to handle their relationship or marriage, it is advisable
to seek professional help and to avoid fighting in front of the child. Improving
the relationship through communication, understanding, sharing, showing care and
concern or by other means that is beneficial to each other and to maintain a positive
relationship provides a better role model to the child.
Note: Results may vary for different individuals and/or families.