(6) If my child is emotional, it is better to avoid it.

When a child is emotional or has the tendency to have emotional outburst may mean that the child lacks skills in handling his/her emotions as well as expressing it in a positive manner. Therefore, when adults avoid this, it reinforces to the child the benefit of using it and hence not willing to improve. The child needs to learn how to handle emotional issues, coping with negative emotions, communicating it to others and how to respond to other’s emotional challenges, triggers and stressors. With this empowerment, the child can behave in a positive manner which can be beneficial to his/her development, socialization, relationship and in other areas that require face to face interactions, sharing, compromising or expressing emotions.

(7) Talking about my child’s failure will cause more disappointment to my child.

Relating to your child in a positive constructive manner with relevant supports and reassurances can help your child learn from his/her mistakes which are important for his/her developments. With the focus on the issue, parents can relate to the child in a way that can help boost the child’s confidence and emotional well-being.

(8) My child will not be affected from seeing his/her parents fighting or quarrelling as long as we do not involve him/her and by showing our love and care to the child.

Seeing his/her parents fighting can cause insecurity and feeling unsafe since he/she may not understand what is happening or being confused by the different behaviours. However, the child may learn that it is alright to behave in this manner to his/her love ones or to communicate one has to behave like this. For older children, he/she may be upset with it hence affecting his/her life and emotional well-being, especially if the child has to choose sides or become the middle person. Therefore, if parents find that they are not able to handle their relationship or marriage, it is advisable to seek professional help and to avoid fighting in front of the child. Improving the relationship through communication, understanding, sharing, showing care and concern or by other means that is beneficial to each other and to maintain a positive relationship provides a better role model to the child.

Note: Results may vary for different individuals and/or families.

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